Read Me First: Some Ground Rules

“The time has come,” the Walrus said, “to speak of many things: of shoes—and ships—and sealing wax—of cabbages—and kings—and why the sea is boiling hot—and whether pigs have wings.” But before we get to other tomfoolery, I believe I need to set down some rules.

Commenters at this blog are expected to be respectful, to me and to other commenters. That means no name calling. You may disagree with me or another commenter, but rudeness and insulting remarks should never be used here.

Regarding respecting me, I know some of you will want to call me Sir (upper case ‘S’). That is a no-no here. I am not your Sir. The occasional sir (lower case ‘s’) is okay, but call me Xajow. I will also accept O Great and Mighty One. (Joking. Sort of.) Anyway, I am just the fellow running this blog. I am not your Sir, or your Dominant, and I am not going to be. Reserve the higher titles of respect for the one who is or will be your Dominant. He (She) deserves them. Not me. Xajow is the name I chose to be known by on the intertubes, and that name is good enough.

I am open to any and all questions. I also reserve the right to not answer any question for any reason. But I will try to answer questions as best I am able. Questions you do not mind others seeing, just ask in the comment sections of the blog posts. All comments must be approved by me, so I will see your questions. If you want to ask a question privately, say so in your comment. The rules for private questions are these: be respectful; introduce yourself; ask your question; explain in general terms why you want the question to remain private. If I deem that you have been respectful enough, and your question is worthy, then I will keep your comment private and e-mail you a reply. If you fail to at the very least respectfully thank me for that reply, then you forfeit any chance of further private communication with me. Does that seem harsh? It is not. A little courtesy does not cost you anything.

This blog is not a dating site. If you want to flirt with other commenters, find some other place to do so, please and thank you. No, I do not allow sharing of e-mail addresses, nor will I give them out. This site is here for my expressions of my thoughts, not for spammers and other hobgoblins.

That covers things for now. Though I reserve the right to update these rules at any time.

And so I end as I began. With foolish talk to keep the mood light. “For, although common Snarks do no manner of harm, yet, I feel it my duty to say, some are Boojums—” The Bellman broke off in alarm, for the Baker had fainted away.

9 Responses to “Read Me First: Some Ground Rules”

  1. Good Evening
    All the above duly noted and as such I apologise unreservedly for my last posting.
    I truly meant no offence to anyone but realize my flippant joke may have upset some.

    • Freya,
      I don’t believe your remark was offensive or hurtful. I agree with your sentiment. Keep posting Freya. Being honest and truthful is the core of Liberate One. I am learning from your shared experience as a submissive.
      Take care, Carol

  2. “I can’t go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.”

    Understood and completely reasonable. I apologize if I have broken this rule with you at any given time. It was simply used out of respect if I have. I fully agree with your chosen rule, see them as a common rule of respect.

    “Come, listen, my men, while I tell you again
    The five unmistakable marks
    By which you may know, wheresoever you go,
    The warranted genuine Snarks”

    Have a good evening, O Great.. -ahem- Xajow.

  3. Copy that Xajow….LLAP

  4. Dear Xajow,
    Thank you for the rules. Things are clearer now. I hope others will truly get it. Boundaries are necessary.
    As a woman who is currently seeking answers about D/s and how to safely incorporate this aspect into my life, I’m grateful that you are there for myself and others. I see you as a teacher and guide.
    Thank you for your time and patience.

  5. Carol
    thank you for your kind words.
    I am gratified my post has helped. It was very hard and painful to write but doing so was liberating in a way I really never envisaged.
    You take care on your journey too.

  6. I don’t quite know what to say. I hope the rules will prevent any more upcoming fights (if there will be some), so I’m really glad you wrote some down. Respecting each other is the first step to finding peace in my opinion. I actually have no clue as in why I just wrote that comment, but I guess I just wanted to say thank you. So thank you Xajow.

  7. I really want my boyfriend to dominate me but he is nervous about it. I don’t think that he realizes that he has been at times when we have had sex and that is what triggered this need that I now have for him to do this. What can I do to help this along and make him feel more confident about this?

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