Archive for the Advice Category

How Well Do You Know Your Submissive?

Posted in Advice, D/s, Dominance, For Doms, Relationships with tags , , , on July 25, 2014 by Xajow

Submissives, this post is not directed at you. In this post, I will be talking to Dominants only. This post is for all Dominants, but especially young and/or inexperienced Dominants. Yet even experienced Dominants may learn something. So pay attention. Continue reading

Some Words About Some Topics

Posted in Advice, In the News, Libertarianism, LOWH with tags , , , , , on March 11, 2014 by Xajow

I truly dislike when an emotional state seems to overtake me. Particularly an unpleasant emotional state. It can make writing  about the things I should here (at Liberate One) more than a little difficult. Why? Well, you’ll just have to keep wondering because I ain’t tellin’. Anyway, on today’s episode of The Mishmash That Is My Brain, I will talk briefly about several varied topics. Come along for the ride, if you dare. Muwah ha ha ha ha… er… Moving on to topic number one… Continue reading

On Being a Dominant, part whatever

Posted in Advice, Dominance, Philosophy, Relationships with tags , , , , , on September 19, 2013 by Xajow

Sometimes, Dominants, you will find yourselves behaving in a manner that seems perfectly normal and amicable to you, and someone else will be offended by your words and/or deeds. And sometimes the someone offended will be a person who is or wants to be in charge. It may even be someone with whom you must, for whatever reason, get along amicably. What do you do? Continue reading

On the First Steps to Becoming a Good Dominant

Posted in Advice, D/s, Dominance, Philosophy with tags , , , on September 5, 2013 by Xajow

So you have determined you are someone with a dominant nature. Or someone is asking you to be a Dominant in a relationship. Or you have stumbled across this Dominance/submission stuff and you are wondering what it is all about. In any case, what you want to know is what would and/or should a person starting out as a Dominant do. Okay, let’s talk about that. Continue reading

Project August: Day 9 – Wherein I Talk About Safe Words

Posted in Advice, D/s, Dominance, Project August, submission with tags , , , , , on August 9, 2013 by Xajow

The topic for today’s entry in Project August is safe words. Some readers out there may be wondering what there is to talk about. Safe words are necessary and accepted part of BDSM. Everyone knows this. Well, let me just say for now, I have a slightly different perspective than the general one with which you may be familiar. Continue reading

“I met a Dominant; so now what?”

Posted in Advice, D/s, Questions Answered, Relationships, submission with tags , , , , , , on July 18, 2013 by Xajow

The last question from the reader known as A628 is this: “How does one deal with if [having met and being tested by a Dominant] and wants to submit?” Basically, it follows from the previous two questions. Which is why I have summed it up as “I met a Dominant; so now what?” To inexperienced folks, the answer may seem obvious: submit to the Dominant. But this is, I think, a question which needs a more serious and substantive answer. And oddly enough, I think I will try to give it one. Continue reading

“How does one know when they are being tested…?”

Posted in Advice, D/s, Questions Answered, submission with tags , , , , , , , on July 17, 2013 by Xajow

Okay, the next question from the reader known as A628 is: “How does one know when they are being tested or perhaps even inadvertently trained as a submissive?” I confess, I am not certain as to what sort of situation A628 is referring, but I will attempt to answer this question anyway. For the purposes of this post, however, I am going to break it up into two separate questions.  Continue reading