Archive for the Questions Answered Category

In Which I Answer Some Questions About Submissiveness

Posted in D/s, Questions Answered, submission with tags , , , , on January 23, 2015 by Xajow

Take your seats, students. Class is in session. Recently I received some questions from an impatient commenter who wishes to remain anonymous: What does it mean if you’re submissive with a certain kind of person and not with others? And does that mean you are not submissive? What’s an ideal submissive? Is it a 24/7 submissive like a Dom would be? And what does it mean if you genuinely are the complete opposite with others and this can’t mean you only enjoy role playing a submissive if you genuinely are with the people who can bring that side out or make you want to let them take control? Is a good submissive always submissive? So let us try to unpack some of this and provide some answers. Continue reading

The Perpetual Question of Certainty

Posted in D/s, Dominance, Philosophy, Questions Answered, Relationships, submission with tags , , , on November 18, 2013 by Xajow

Time for class, students. In relationships, particularly those that leave us vulnerable to being hurt, we often find the question of certainty. And this is no less true in Dominance/submission relationships. I was asked recently, “How does a Dominant know a certain submissive will fulfill his wants and fit his needs?” There are really two questions here. The literal question itself, and the implied question. Are you prepared? Good. Class begins. Continue reading

“I met a Dominant; so now what?”

Posted in Advice, D/s, Questions Answered, Relationships, submission with tags , , , , , , on July 18, 2013 by Xajow

The last question from the reader known as A628 is this: “How does one deal with if [having met and being tested by a Dominant] and wants to submit?” Basically, it follows from the previous two questions. Which is why I have summed it up as “I met a Dominant; so now what?” To inexperienced folks, the answer may seem obvious: submit to the Dominant. But this is, I think, a question which needs a more serious and substantive answer. And oddly enough, I think I will try to give it one. Continue reading

“How does one know when they are being tested…?”

Posted in Advice, D/s, Questions Answered, submission with tags , , , , , , , on July 17, 2013 by Xajow

Okay, the next question from the reader known as A628 is: “How does one know when they are being tested or perhaps even inadvertently trained as a submissive?” I confess, I am not certain as to what sort of situation A628 is referring, but I will attempt to answer this question anyway. For the purposes of this post, however, I am going to break it up into two separate questions.  Continue reading

“How does one know when they meet a Dominant?”

Posted in Advice, D/s, Questions Answered, submission with tags , , , , on July 16, 2013 by Xajow

Back to things as usual here at Liberate One world headquarters. Time to start answering some questions. Recently I got asked several questions by a reader known (to me) only as A628. I was going to address them all in a single post, but I changed my mind. I will give each question its own post. I will begin with “How does one know when they meet a Dominant?” Continue reading

What Kind of Self-Esteem Does a Submissive Have?

Posted in D/s, Questions Answered, submission with tags , , , on June 30, 2013 by Xajow

A question appeared in the search terms that have led people to this blog. Since I made the question the subject line, you should already know what the question is. Of course, the next obvious question is, why am I addressing the issue of what kind of self-esteem submissives have? A-cause it seemed like a good idea at the time. Continue reading

Search Terms: Lightning Round

Posted in Advice, D/s, Dominance, Questions Answered, Relationships, submission with tags , , , , , , , , , on August 21, 2012 by Xajow

Today I briefly answer several issues gleaned from the search terms. 1) I can understand submission but not dominance. 2) What games and things do you have to learn for a Dominant/submissive relationship? 3) How to act submissive to a Dominant. 4) Easiest explanation for a Dominant/submissive relationship. 5) Can a Dominant have more than one submissive? Continue reading