Archive for Dominance/submission

In Which I Answer Some Questions About Submissiveness

Posted in D/s, Questions Answered, submission with tags , , , , on January 23, 2015 by Xajow

Take your seats, students. Class is in session. Recently I received some questions from an impatient commenter who wishes to remain anonymous: What does it mean if you’re submissive with a certain kind of person and not with others? And does that mean you are not submissive? What’s an ideal submissive? Is it a 24/7 submissive like a Dom would be? And what does it mean if you genuinely are the complete opposite with others and this can’t mean you only enjoy role playing a submissive if you genuinely are with the people who can bring that side out or make you want to let them take control? Is a good submissive always submissive? So let us try to unpack some of this and provide some answers. Continue reading

Sub Assignment Number Six

Posted in D/s, sub assignment, submission with tags , , , on October 15, 2014 by Xajow

Remember back when I posted the previous sub assignment, and I said the next one would be posted the following week. And then it didn’t happen. Yeah, erm, I meant it to happen. So, um, well, anyway, that sub assignment I was going to post then, well I am posting it now. So, submissives, get ready to do some more kneeling. Continue reading

A Piece of a Fantasy About a Strict D/s Relationship (NSFW)

Posted in D/s, Story Time with tags , , , , , , , on October 11, 2014 by Xajow

Yes, I know, life without me is horribly boring. You yearn for my wisdom and… No? Oh. You’re getting on just fine without me. Okay. Well, anyway, I am trying to move on. So I will try to do something fun. Which means it is time for a warning. This post is Not Safe For Work. Within are naughty words and sexual situations. If you don’t like that sort of thing, then don’t read this post. Also, this fantasy involves Dominance/submission, and a some of the other parts of BDSM as well. If you do not want to read about a male dominant disciplining a female submissive, then go elsewhere for entertainment. You have been warned. Continue reading

For Dominants: Follow-up to Sub Assignment Number Five

Posted in D/s, Dominance, For Doms with tags , , , on September 3, 2014 by Xajow

The fifth sub assignment is up. I hope, O Dominants, you will take the time to talk about the assignment with your submissives. The assignment is not difficult and should not be too time consuming. Continue reading

Sub Assignment Number Five

Posted in D/s, sub assignment, submission with tags , , , on September 3, 2014 by Xajow

Yes, the time has come for another assignment. I know you’re excited. Breathe. Anyway, this assignment is for submissives, but also for those who may be wondering if they are a submissive. And this is actually the first part of a double assignment. Fair warning, there will be kneeling and writing involved. Continue reading

How Well Do You Know Your Submissive?

Posted in Advice, D/s, Dominance, For Doms, Relationships with tags , , , on July 25, 2014 by Xajow

Submissives, this post is not directed at you. In this post, I will be talking to Dominants only. This post is for all Dominants, but especially young and/or inexperienced Dominants. Yet even experienced Dominants may learn something. So pay attention. Continue reading

Some Words About Rituals

Posted in D/s, Dominance, Relationships, submission with tags , , , , , on July 21, 2014 by Xajow

Students, you might want to prepare to take some notes today. I talked about rituals once before, about having rituals and including them in D/s. Today, I want to talk more specifically about creating a ritual. One can just string some actions together, repeat it all a few times, and call it a ritual. But one can also be more thoughtful about it, and give specific meaning to specific actions and thereby create a ritual with more significance and beauty. And hopefully create a ritual that enhances the D/s experience.
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