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Project August: Day 14 – A Short One

Posted in Philosophy, Project August with tags , , , , , on August 14, 2013 by Xajow

I got nothing. Well, not really nothing. I was about to write a long post, but I do not have the time. I searched for something to write just briefly about, and I got nothing. And worse, I spent too much time looking. So today is a sort of a cheat for Project August. I apologize. I am going to pull out a reserve again. I wanted to do more with this post, but I haven’t the time. You should go to Continue reading

Yes, I am a Dom and a libertarian

Posted in D/s, Explanation, Libertarianism with tags , , , , , , , , on September 6, 2012 by Xajow

I know, I know, some of you are wondering what happened to the D/s discussion and the NSFW posts. Some of you may be glad to see more political opinion. Well, I am always going to have some of both here. You’re just going to have to get used to that. Continue reading

Communication, communication, communication!

Posted in Advice, Relationships with tags , , , , , , , , , on August 23, 2012 by Xajow

I cannot stress enough how important communication is to relationships. I do not mean just D/s relationships. All relationships. Communication is vital in relationships with lovers, friends, family, neighbors, coworkers, bosses, acquaintances, and on and on. And I do not just mean talking. I mean listening too. Continue reading

Answering Some Questions – Purpose

Posted in Philosophy, Questions Answered with tags , , , on June 17, 2012 by Xajow

I know, I know. You are wondering anxiously if I will answer the tenth question. Your wait is over.

Day 10, the final day, of answering questions posed by Diane Owens.

Question #10
Does everyone in this world have a purpose? If so, do we ever find out what the purpose is?

Well, the Christian in me says, yes, everyone has a purpose. But I am in no mood for proselytizing tonight, so I am not going to be theological about this one.

Do we ever find out what that purpose is? Possibly.

Everyone has a skill set. Everyone has experiences that give a unique perspective. If you feel you do not know your purpose, go look for it. It might be what you expect. Then again, it might not. Find what drives you. Find what makes you happy. Find what gives you a sense of accomplishment. Hone your skills. Learn new ones. You can find a purpose, if you want to. And if you do not like the options the world presents you then create one you do like.

In a very general way of speaking, your purpose is to be you. Not to be self-centered. Not to do anything you want without regard to others. But to be you, to be who you are, and to be the best person you that you can manage to be.

That is what all this D/s talk is about. It is one way of being the best person you can be. That is why (in case you wondered) we bother to do it. If D/s is not your thing, don’t do it. If it is, embrace it. If your thing is something else, embrace that.

Embrace who you are. Do not be stagnant. Do not stop growing. I am not saying that. I am saying grow, improve you. Move forward. Be a better you tomorrow than you were today. Do that, and even if you never recognize your purpose, you will find it.